It’s been 45 years since the death of my older sister, Alice Ward Kelly, R.N. She’d be a senior citizen now if she were alive. I thought I’d reminisce about her all too brief but meaningful life.

Alice Kelly, 1971.

None of my father’s eight children became a physician like him. One of us did join the “healing profession” — so he can take some satisfaction in that. Alice might have become a physician. She just never got the chance. My father one confided in me that before her tragic death in December 1974, Alice “was seriously considering medical school.” The calling was there, dad felt.

In a show of cruel fate, Alice was on her way to the hospital during a serve Northeast storm when she crashed her car and died. Doubly cruel, Alice was the second sibling in the family to die in an auto wreck (a 1971 accident had claimed the life of our sister, Clare).

Born in Monmouth Beach and educated in local Catholic primary and high schools (Star of the Sea and RBC), Alice was a person of great intensity and beauty. Today, many men — accomplished and confident guys — who grew up with her tell me how swayed (and sometimes intimidated) they were by her dazzling persona.

Etched into my memory forever is the evening my father answered a phone call and learned of the death of his second-born daughter. Being just a boy of 14 when Alice died, my memories of her are still fond.

Youthful Vigor
A young woman of great inner and outer splendor, Alice was an accomplished 21-year-old registered nurse when she died in an auto accident during the Thanksgiving weekend of 1974. A year before, she had graduated at the top of her class from St. Clare’s Hospital School of Nursing in New York City. The commencement exercises, which I attended, were held in the magnificent St. Patrick’s Cathedral in Manhattan.

“Wherever the art of medicine is loved, there is also a love of humanity.”
—Hippocrates

“She decided all on her own to go into nursing and she did it all on her own without any help from me,” my physician-dad told me. “I was very proud of her work and I know she was too.” Never afraid to jump into action, Alice worked in the intensive care unit at my dad’s hospital — the very busy Riverview Hospital in Red Bank. There she quickly won the respect of her nurse colleagues and the staff physicians.

My father explained to me that Alice “was a very bright and determined person, and rightly earned the admiration and trust of the doctors — not always an easy task for such a young person. What made her a good nurse was the same thing that makes all healthcare professionals good — she cared about people,” Dad said. “Her goal was always to make patients feel better.”

In receiving a thoroughly Catholic education (1^st grade right through nursing school), Alice came to embody its teachings — hope, compassion, love, faith. One of her colleagues in the ICU said that Alice was “very dedicated but also had a sense of what she was doing within a greater scope. She didn’t want to say in nursing permanently.” So perhaps my father was right about her career arch in medicine. I would have loved to see it all.

Alice Kelly — Hollywood gorgeous!

Making a Difference
Whatever stresses Alice had — and I’ve learned she did have some — she managed to conceal from me and most others. But the pressure was intense. My father always said that nurses are the true backbone of America’s healthcare system. “You can’t run an efficient hospital without nurses,” he once told me. “And there are no nurses in hell. Unfortunately, I can’t make the same statement about doctors.”

The ancient Greeks — who knew a thing or two about life — believed that, “Out of tragedy comes wisdom.” As painful as it is for me to admit, I must agree with their reasoning. Thus, while Alice may be gone, I know that her noble ways live on in all those she touched.